This is how we ascend together.

I get it now.

As a team, a daily dyad building something new, together, belonging is the air we breathe. We are chosen.

We don’t second guess it. We walk in it, train in it, embody and cultivate everything strong and unique about ourselves, because we allow each other to see us, to speak the details.

We are a benediction to one another.

We have a shared mission, and thus, see the world through the same lens.

We stand for and fight for each other’s expansion at every threshold.

Words from which we always previously refrained, such as “I miss them, I love her, should I get him a gift?” are the byproduct of the newfound confidence we have. Seeing one another leaven every interaction with fresh care and enthusiasm, we couldn’t believe that could be due to one another’s witness — though it was explicitly attributed thusly.

I was more than a little nervous: was I being outgrown? Was our work together going to cause me to be replaced, because suddenly you were reaching outward to others, pulling them in, giving to them, raising them up—and even inviting new people to train, or training them yourself?

I saw it as a threat, for a while, though some part of me suspected and wanted to believe what I’m now realizing is truth: when isolation becomes teamwork, when avoidant or anxious attachment begins to become secure, the love, inspiration, self-belief and camaraderie is paid forward, not kept within a closed system.

As part of a team, a person can actually let in the love they’re receiving and walk out their role.

In such a setting, what they’ve taken in doesn’t build up or stagnate, nor does it disappear into the black hole of insecurity, always needing more.

On the contrary, the energy moves through them—outward—to the world. It reaches others, and begins to multiply and come back to them from others.

The dyad becomes an ecosystem.

Recently, I experienced once again a sense of being fully received and fully chosen, working in a brotherhood where details are tracked, denoted with words; where something is being built.

All parties experienced the same thing at the same time:

An automatic urge to reach out to more people welled up within us, at our gyms and in our lives, in a more direct and authentic way. We found ourselves more bold with people who previously intimidated us. A new sense of “onward” was instantly inspired by the side by side co-mission and synergistic resonance.

But then?

We both got jealous of each other’s new “plates to spin,” becoming territorial about our role in each other’s lives.

What our logical minds saw but nervous systems hadn’t caught up to yet?

That boldness and the reason for it?

It’s because of partnership and attunement.

Anyone else who joins up, is affected, or included because of our energetic shift makes the original partner, the original team—that catalyst that ignited the change in us—more appreciated, not less.

It makes that catalyst a launch pad; an origin point.

It makes that catalyst utterly impossible to replace.

“How do we change the world?”

One conversation at a time, and conducting those conversations fully owning your space individually and your role within the team. Influence occurs when we embody the belief that our base is secure.

Expansion never overwrites the origin bond.

It proves it is real.

This is how we ascend together.